4 Ways to Creating More Positive Encounters

“Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.” – Matthew 5:16

Last week, I shared a post about attitude. I shared that when we encounter others, we can choose to give life or suck the life out of the party through our attitudes. In this post, I want to share with you strategies to turn even the most mundane encounters into positive experiences that give life.

First, a quick story. I have a friend/mentor who is incredibly positive, even when he’s giving hard advice. Every time I leave a conversation with him, I leave encouraged, pumped up, and ready to accomplish whatever is in front of me.

Simply, he gives me life!

Even through a simple text, and you know how those can go awry if misread, he always finds a way to express his enthusiasm and positivity that brings up my mood, no matter the situation.

From him, I’ve learned these 4 ways to create more positive encounters with the people around you:

  • Smile: It’s incredible how far a smile will go! We underestimate how much we can change a situation through our facial expressions. I don’t mean giving smug expressions when someone is upset at you, but just know your facial expressions can either build up or tear down an encounter.
  • Lean in: Physically and mentally. If you’re like me, you don’t like people in your personal box. But, if you lean in physically with an affirming and positive facial expression, it sows the other individual that you actually care about this encounter. You are receiving it eagerly.
  • Give a compliment: Please use wisdom with this, especially when complimenting the opposite sex. But, find something you can affirm about the other person. Complimenting someone says, “I don’t just hear you. I see you, and you matter.”
  • Celebrate something: Do me a favor and count how many times someone says something negative today throughout your conversations. Humans tend to maximize the negative while minimizing the positive. As they say, “every cloud has a silver lining”–I’ll add–“even if it’s borrowed. Find something to celebrate.

I want to deposit more positivity in my life, and I am sure you do, too.

My encouragement is that we make more deposits by using these four simple strategies to create more positive encounters with people. We will feel better, our relationships will be healthier, and we’ll find ourselves giving life to the people around us, which, in the end, will increase the quality of our own lives!