For some reason this concept of being trapped in a box has been burning my brain. I hear so many stories of people who want more out of life, yet they stay in a self-imposed box.
I know the feeling first-hand.
There’s been more times than I wish to admit where I’ve kept myself in a box. I’ve boxed myself in relationships, in a career and even in the desires of my life.
The greatest feeling is when you finally break free from the the box.
When we stay in the box we, are actually doing ourselves a great disservice.
Remaining in the box will not only limit our potential. Staying in the box is the stuff dream killers, no life killers are made of.
Eventually atrophy begins and our dreams, talents, and abilities slowly fade away till life is no more than a cynical mess. Don’t you love being around those that are cynical? Aren’t they a joyous bunch? I’m kidding obviously.
The sad fact is that many of us have already hit that point. Most of us don’t even know it. Luckily we can break out of the box.
How do I know, I did it! But the key is realizing that you are in a box.
Before I get into the 6 signs to know if you are in a box, there’s one important thing for you to know.
No one can put you in a box. You put yourself in a box. It will be your responsibility to take yourself out.
Hear are the 6 signs that you are in a box:
- You have reached your limit for growth. This can happen in any area of the “box life.” You reach the seiling at your job. Your friends do not challenge you to excel academically or professionally. You are giving up the milk without your significant other buying the cow. It’s time to get out of the box.
- Most of your time is spent daydreaming. Boy have I been here. I am a dreamer at heart. But if you find yourself making plans more than working on plans, then you are in a box. As John Acuff says, “shut up already and do it!“
- You talk about how irresponsible people are. I have met people like this. They talk about how irresponsible others are for following their dreams. They mask their jealousy with talk of stability. Consistency. Security. Yet they whine about their jobs, paycheck or relationships.
- You become dependent. This situation is so prevalent. You should not dependent on your job, your job should depend on you. You should not depend on a relationship to validate you. You should be your own validation.
- You blame others for your current situation. This needs no explanation.
- You think this post is dumb. You know you’re in a box when you become closed minded. The greatest sermon I’ve ever heard was preached by a pastor whose doctrinal beliefs are completely different from mine.
It’s a hard pill to swallow to realize that you are in a box. It’s even worse when you are oblivious to the fact that you are in a box. But it is an incredible experience to finally leave the box.
Life becomes one thats lived with purpose. That’s a life outside of the box. That’s the life of an unrelenting optimist.